Why aren't we as a society doing everything we possibly can?
Why aren't parents demanding that the staff of schools, churches and youth-serving organizations be trained?
Why aren't parents seeking the training for themselves?
Silence is compliance. When we are not educating ourselves and those who are trusted with our kids we are allowing this to happen. The only way we are going to stop this epidemic is to educate to eliminate!
The Problem / Statistics:
- 1 in 3 girls are sexually abused before the age of 18. (The Advocacy Center)
- 1 in 5 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18. (The Advocacy Center)
- 1 in 10 students will be a victim of sexual misconduct by school personnel per the US Dept. of Education.
- “More than 90% of individuals with a developmental delay or disability will be sexually assaulted at least once in their lifetime.” (Valenti-Heim, D.m Schwartz L.)
- 90% of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator in some way. (U.S. Dept. of Justice)
- 30% by family members, 60% by people the family trusts
- 1 in 5 children are solicited sexually while on the Internet before the age of 18. (National Children’s Alliance: Nationwide Child Abuse Statistics)
- Kids who have been abused are at greater risk for becoming CSEC – Commercially Sexually Exploited Children.
- A typical pedophile will commit 117 sexual crimes in a lifetime. (National Sex Offenders Registry)
Consequences of Child Sexual Abuse:
When we choose to not train our staff and ourselves, when we don’t report suspicious behavior, when we don’t speak up when someone is crossing a boundary or when we don’t listen to our kids we are killing their future potential. Victims of child sexual abuse suffer these consequences:
- Perform lower on cognitive ability, academic achievement and memory assessment
- 3 – 4 X higher percentage of substance abuse
- Significant increase in truancy and drop-out rates
- 2.2 X higher percentage of teen pregnancy
- 3 to 5 X delinquency and crime
- PTSD including 2 x higher percentage of anxiety, depression, and suicide
- 2 x higher percentage of obesity and eating disorders
- 30% more likely to have diabetes, cancer, heart problems, stroke or hypertension
- Life expectancy is 10 – 20 years less than people who have not been abused
As a tax-payer you should know the average lifetime cost per victim of child abuse is $210,012* costing the U.S. billions annually. These expenses are largely paid for by the public sector - the taxpayer.
The costs include:
- Healthcare costs
- Criminal justice costs
- Child welfare costs
- Special education costs
- Productivity losses
*Fang, X., Brown, D., Florence, C., Mercy, J. (2012) The economic burden of child maltreatment in the United States and implications for prevent. Child Abuse & Neglect, 36:2,156-165
95% of sexual abuse is preventable through education. (Child Molestation Research and Prevention Institute). It is not cost prohibitive or time consuming so there is no excuse for not training all staff and volunteers of any organization that works with youths.
Mandated Reporter training is not comprehensive. It focuses on reporting and barely mentions prevention. Youth-serving organizations should be trained on prevention annually. Prevention training protects the students, staff, and the organization.
In the book, The Socially Skilled Child Molester, Psychologist Carla van Dam, says that predators deliberately choose places of employment and to volunteer in organizations that do not train their staff. Predators deliberately target people who are too uncomfortable to discuss child sexual abuse prevention, too shy to speak up, too worried about being polite or hurting feelings to speak up when boundaries have been crossed. There are way too many options for predators to choose from, if you are trained they will quickly move onto an easier target.
Prepare Them, Don’t Scare Them!
We teach our kids about stranger danger, drug use, earthquake preparedness, stop-drop-roll for fire prevention, and active shooters on campus. Odds are greater by far that they will be sexually abused in their lifetime than any of those occurrences. Child sexual abuse prevention should be treated like all other safety matters.
Safety 1st Program
Safety 1st Program is for schools and youth-serving organizations to show parents and the community they are dedicated to putting Safety 1st.
Events & Conferences
I offer private and customizable trainings for schools and youth-serving organizations. I offer public trainings for parents and individuals. I speak at conferences and community events.
CSA Prevention Training
Child Sexual Abuse is predictable and preventable. Take my training to learn how to predict, prevent, and react to child sexual abuse. This is NOT convered in CA Mandated Reporter Training. That is reactive, my training is preventative!